With a Grateful Prayer and a Thankful Heart: The Blessings of Adult Children

Sunday, October 11, 2009

The Blessings of Adult Children

I loved and immensely enjoyed every day with our children when they were little . When I see old photographs of them I passionately want to scoop them out of the picture and squeeze them to pieces. I miss their giggles. I miss braiding their hair. I miss the chatter around the dinner table and so many more things about their childhood.

I have traded those times for new ones. Different. Wonderful.

It's not all about teaching, training and guiding any more. Oh, I still get lots of questions about cooking, housekeeping, child rearing or other how-to stuff. But now when we talk I am the one listening, learning, in awe of the bright, caring adults they have become.

Frequently our conversations turn to spiritual or theological thoughts. And this is where I am overcome with delight. No, they haven't faced many of the hard places that each of us have to journey through. And they have not yet learned the lessons that each of those valleys teach. But because their hearts are stayed on Jesus and they seek to grow in the knowledge of their Savior, they have a measure of wisdom and faith that both encourages and up-lifts.

Now it is our kids showing a tender, caring heart toward us.
I was reminded that our children hurt when their parents hurt and they have deep concerns about our well being. Many times I have been encouraged by a book or song they recommended. (Ever listen to Don Moen's I Will Sing? I must have played it for weeks when my daughter first sent me the link.) On occasion we will get a note in the mail or in this case a six page letter. Not a letter filled with answers. Better. Reminders to look to the One who has given his promises to those who are his children.

Sometimes as we walk through a desert experience, it helps to have someone remind you of Truth. And when your kids remind you it is a tremendous blessing!

Lord You seem so far away
A million miles or more it feels today
And though I haven't lost my faith
I must confess right now
That it's hard for me to pray
But I don't know what to say
And I don't know where to start
But as You give the grace
With all that's in my heart

I will sing I will praise
Even in my darkest hour
Through the sorrow and the pain
I will sing I will praise
Lift my hands to honor You
Because Your Word is true
I will sing

Lord it's hard for me to see
All the thoughts and plans You have for me
But I will put my trust in You
Knowing that You died to set me free
But I don't know what to say
And I don't know where to start
But as You give grace
With all that's in my heart


Janice said...

Thank you for sharing this. Not sure you would get six page letters if you had boys! But I know what you mean, sometimes a phone call or short text message gives me the same warm feeling, that they keep to the same strong values that we hoped we could pass on.

hip chick said...

thank you so much for sharing this. It really brought tears to my eyes. My children are between the ages of 16 and 21. Three of them have moved out of our home and I miss them. It seems that every place I turn I see blogs or articles or mums of young children. It is difficult to find ladies sharing and blessing each other with stories about their grown or teen children. It's nice to know that while they may turn from us for a time they do come back. We can miss the child and still love the adult.

Linda C said...

Thanks for sharing your heart on this! I totally am with you on the joys of raising these kids (and how I miss it:) -- and my joy of knowing and enjoying them now as adults! I just look at them sometimes in wonder and thankfulness to the Lord.

They and the grandchildren are my heart:)

Linda C

The Watts Family said...

Thanks for sharing although you are in a different season from me it was encouraging to hear your thoughts about what seasons may be like for me to come in the future. They grow up so fast! ~Blessings Heather

Miss Jen said...

That is beautiful~ Mrs.H! :)
Thank you for sharing your
heart.... the Lord is SO good
and uses all for His glory!

Love~ Jen

marie said...

What a lovely post and what a beautiful song! thank you so much for sharing both.

Joy said...

You are truly blessed to have Bible-believing children--of course, I know it didn't happen without a lot of faith and perseverence on the parent's part. God has rewarded your faithfulness!

Debbie @ Cheaper by the Bakers Dozen said...

I love it when my grown children recommend music for me (and I love it even more when they go ahead and make me a CD of it!) I have four grown children, with 7 more to go still living at home. Living in "both worlds" is hard, but it's fun having grandchildren while still raising some of my own.

Your pictures of the flowers and birds are gorgeous. what kind of camera do you have?


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